The Evolved Man

A 3-month journey of transformation into 21st Century manhood

Society’s standards have evolved. Have you?

The Power of Integrity 

Be a role model for other men

Be the man women recommend to their friends

Wield your strength and influence with generosity 

Access the deepest truths of attraction

Liberate your sexuality from performance and shame

Confidently navigate consent accidents 

Enhance your trustworthiness and reputation

Regain your purpose

Become a pillar of your community

Inspire everyone you meet

“The world needs men who value their own INTEGRITY above all else.”

- Mischa Byruck

The Third Way

The third way lies between the equally toxic ideals of capitalism and chaos, between chad and cuck, fuckboi and spiritual fuckboi, between patriarchal captain of industry and patriarchal new age guru. It is the path of desire AND accountability, of radical self-expression AND radical compassion. It is the path of humility in the face of our unquenchable lust for power. It is the path of humor and grace.

And it’s yours.

  • "Men need Men like Mischa. This is vitally important work."

    Edward, 43, Writer

Trauma-informed tools for the modern man

  • Double-down inquiries

  • One-sided vulnerability

  • The Platinum Rule

  • Values-aligned breakups

  • Compassionate communication

  • Skillful repair

  • Preemptive feedback

  • The Red Carpet for No

  • Sexual self-mastery

  • Proactive Social obligation release

  • Non-defensive listening

  • The Principle of Spaciousness

“Men are shielded from the impact of our actions. We must be proactive in seeking out our own accountability.”

- Mischa Byruck

  • “This program has been such a gift!! I hope every man has a chance to experience this level of clarity!”

    Matthew, 29, Sales

The Joy of Manhood

Your journey begins . . .

  • Inventory your relationship history and identify your patterns. Give voice to your negative experiences with women. Face the fear, loneliness, and shame; identify the core skills you want to develop.

  • Leave the psychobabble behind and identify your core values and purpose. Learn new coaching tools for tackling the world head-on. Establish your foundational practices and set unique goals. Define your vision, create your key maxim, and ensure the presence of support systems.

  • Our culture hurts men as much as it hurts women. Differentiate your values from the norms of your community, Flip all the roles and scripts; and release yourself from society’s expectations. You are free.

  • Nothing is sexier than a man who knows his own power, rank, and influence, and wields it well. Learn where power really lies in every room you’re in. Recognize and avoid landmine scenarios, make preemptive feedback requests, and roll out the red carpet for the no.

  • No more fuckbois, chads, SNAGS, or incels. There’s a new paradigm for sex that can get you everything you’ve ever wanted: apply selective sexual abstention and develop exquisite attunement. Demonstrate green flags; recognize hungry ghost energy, and always respond to Soft No’s.

  • No more douchebags, ladykillers, rakes, or scoundrels. Instead apply the Platinum Rule, engage in values-aligned breakups, recognize resentment-based dynamics like the friendzone and ensure you avoid accidental lovebombing, ghosting, abandonment, and manipulation.

  • Can you lovingly hold women’s pain without becoming rudderless or unmoored? Develop this muscle by uncovering your own behavioral blind spots. Then, conjure the magic of deep masculine presence, develop your trauma-awareness, and overcome the chasm of perception to intuitively understand what will upset her.

  • Ever made things WORSE while trying to make things better? Learn the secret skills to making every misstep an opportunity for GREATER connection: the 4-Pillar apology framework, double-down inquiries, one-sided vulnerability, and proactive social obligation release.

  • There is an art and a science to owning your own impacts fully in a way that women appreciate. Reframe the the good man/bad man myth, transform resentment with the green lens; Discern what is and isn’t yours to own; Understand impact vs intent; Engage in non-reactive, non-defensive listening; and learn the principle of spaciousness in community reintegration.

  • Cement your newly gained practices, skills, and shifts. Recognize the responsibility that comes with your new powers. Celebrate your evolution.

Your Transformation

I use ontological life coaching, behavioral science, and somatic techniques. My method is informed by Buddhist teachings on compassion and non-judgement, and the wisdom of the restorative justice movement.

We will engage in reading and writing assignments; unique tools, handouts, and worksheets; discussion, debate, and reflection; as well as concrete, measurable behavior change projects to integrate the knowledge and get it INTO your life. 

This work demands profound honesty, fortitude, and courage. You must be willing to SHOW UP and CHALLENGE your most closely held thoughts, beliefs, opinions, and conclusions.

  • Two years later, I still use the teachings I got from working with Mischa! He helped me tremendously to be honest about what I want."

    - Liam, 47, Senior Engineer

Mischa Byruck

I’ve supported over a hundred men to transform their relationship to sex and success. I’m an ICF-certified coach with supplemental training in abuser counseling, men’s work, trauma, embodiment, and antiracism. I have a BA from Columbia and an MPA from NYU. I’ve also written about my work in magazines, and been interviewed on some of the top relationship podcasts

I’ve lived all over the world, launched 3 companies, and worked as a journalist, activist, consultant, and entrepreneur, from Harlem to New Orleans to rural Ghana.

I’ve also loved women and done harm in my relationships. My experiences have given me a unique insight into what we owe each other as human beings, and the potential for all men to transcend our conditioning and offer our gifts to the world.